tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7044922391916443350.post2215184628388888634..comments2023-10-18T02:31:09.215-07:00Comments on Day by Day: Adoption Information MeetingBeckyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02322290663156695892noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7044922391916443350.post-28091367600655337612009-07-30T18:41:33.948-07:002009-07-30T18:41:33.948-07:00You have been on my heart lately. This sounds very...You have been on my heart lately. This sounds very overwhelming but I know that God will get you and your husband through this. Keep your eyes on the Lord.<br /><br />Do you have any thing specifically that I can be praying for?Aliciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14426848699869302758noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7044922391916443350.post-6966813998885996462009-07-27T19:03:04.496-07:002009-07-27T19:03:04.496-07:00I am praying for you. I know this must be very har...I am praying for you. I know this must be very hard for you.Jackiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02445704577865745195noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7044922391916443350.post-89222687236589824162009-07-26T20:43:34.528-07:002009-07-26T20:43:34.528-07:00I'm here from Wendi's blog.
I would find ...I'm here from Wendi's blog.<br /><br />I would find that a long time as well. Our agency (in Ohio, and so not a help) had an average wiat time of about 18 months, so maybe they're being more cautious with their estimations and it is possible that you will take a lot less time?<br /><br />One thing you can do is make sure you have all your ducks in a row as fast as possible...you can start working asap on things like a profile, etc...it will make the wait shorter and make the wait SEEM shorter if you're busy. If you don't already have a nursery, get that together, buy a thing a week for the baby till you have a good "emergency" set-up ready, etc. Those are things that helped make our wait seem more tolerable.<br /><br />I have heard only good things about Bethany. But...that is a LONG wait even for CLASSES.<br /><br />Can you hire a consultant if you work with Bethany? I have a friend who has adopted from and also works for Christian Adoption Consultants and I'd reccomend them. Here is her blog: <br /><br />http://apathoftheheart.blogspot.com/<br /><br />GOOD LUCK!Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05181924375187173030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7044922391916443350.post-70220788206718686212009-07-26T17:32:03.966-07:002009-07-26T17:32:03.966-07:00so overwhelming.. Praying for u!so overwhelming.. Praying for u!Jesus, My Best Friendhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10925173414863829605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7044922391916443350.post-51246074469103763902009-07-26T11:23:25.394-07:002009-07-26T11:23:25.394-07:00Hello. I happened upon your blog from Wendi's....Hello. I happened upon your blog from Wendi's. My husband and I adopted our beautiful son thru Bethany. I must say the prices you listed are down from what we paid! That being said, having seen what people/friends have been thru in adoption privately or other agencies, i wouldn't go any other way then to use Bethany.<br />Our entire adoption process was not 'normal' in the context of wait time, BM and BD, etc and for once something in our lives was pretty seamless. Well sort of, we did have a couple issues with the agency but all in all they did a great job.<br />I wouldn't mind the least in emailing or talking with you about options, encouragement, etc whatevery you may need. Our son is 4 1/2 now and i would love to adopt again. We have a daughter that will be 3 Aug 9th and truly is another miracle child:)<br />So yeah, feel free to email me @ rachelrlaw at gmail com if you'd like more information, thoughts, etc<br />I'll go back now and re-read some of your blog:)Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10137048728051760959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7044922391916443350.post-38934588440651828722009-07-26T11:06:42.864-07:002009-07-26T11:06:42.864-07:00I haven't adopted in MD (or at all), but we re...I haven't adopted in MD (or at all), but we requested info from Bethany in January, and what you learned at the meeting is pretty consistent with what we received. The only differences were price (our local agency operates on a sliding scale from $12k-$30k, depending on income, and I wasn't clear that there is a screening interview before they send you the packet (I always referred to the first application as "Initial Application" and the long involved one/packet the "Formal Application", but it's all just semantics). In short, it didn't seem like there was so much time between the Initial Application and being approved and waiting- I actually thought it had to be done within 6-7 months or else your homestudy expires. I could be totally wrong about that, though.<br /><br />Also, the TPR wait in my state is only 7 days, and I totally think a wait of 30 days would absolutely freak me out a little...but like you say, it's out of your hands really. I do know (99% sure) that if you adopt interstate, you have to abide by the birth state's rules, so if your child was born in another state who had a shorter wait time, then you'd only have the shorter wait time!<br /><br />Other agencies I've heard good things about are Christian Adoptions, Children's Home Society, and Jewish Family Services.<br /><br />I'll be praying!!Ahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08034231451458994325noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7044922391916443350.post-79373615499375206892009-07-25T22:08:31.557-07:002009-07-25T22:08:31.557-07:00I have heard alot of similar stories about Bethany...I have heard alot of similar stories about Bethany and my 2 cents is...well we are using adopthelp.com are they cheap? No not at all but they have an average wait time of 6 months. No classes or anything. You still have to follow the laws of course but they are there to match you and be your lawyer. We are so happy with them so far...<br /><br />If you were looking for a Christian agency ( we are christian but choose adopthelp because it as recommended to us by several people) I heard that Christian Adoptions is a great one...a blogger named Kelly that I follow is using them and they seem pretty great too!<br /><br /><br />Just some thoughts:)Just Believinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02209860792709070040noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7044922391916443350.post-85724470475052614392009-07-25T21:32:51.490-07:002009-07-25T21:32:51.490-07:00hey just found your blog and we too are just start...hey just found your blog and we too are just starting the adoptiton process so we can be waiting buddies :)<br /><br />stop by my blog at wondrafulbaby.blogspot.comJust Believinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02209860792709070040noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7044922391916443350.post-53428014509376321382009-07-25T20:35:36.062-07:002009-07-25T20:35:36.062-07:00Becky, I'm going to put a link to your blog on...Becky, I'm going to put a link to your blog on my blog to encourage people to offer some encouragement/advice.<br /><br />However, even though we talked via phone following the meeting, just reading about it made me want to print this out and hand it to people who ever make the, "Why don't you just adopt" comment. It is not easy. It is expensive, hard, emotional, and overwhelming.<br /><br />That being said, I know the Lord has a perfect child picked out for you, and I can't wait to meet him/her! :)Wendi Kitsteinerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05515018912328000746noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7044922391916443350.post-47244258349733648342009-07-25T20:16:06.751-07:002009-07-25T20:16:06.751-07:00Oh goodness. I would find that information entire...Oh goodness. I would find that information entirely disappointing. I think that's part of why it took us so long to actually get to the point of signing up with an agency. Once we found the agency we are with now, it seemed like a great fit. I started to leave this comment HOURS ago, but got distracted. I would be happy to answer any question you have about our process. Do you have yahoo messenger, or msn messenger? If so, maybe we can set a time to visit about it.Nikihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07709091540320278711noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7044922391916443350.post-62588312151493699752009-07-25T15:51:07.976-07:002009-07-25T15:51:07.976-07:00I prayed for you by name this morning and will con...I prayed for you by name this morning and will continue to do so. Hang in there and please keep us posted.djordanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03768892927584627891noreply@blogger.com