About 2 weeks ago I went to meet Grace for lunch (I got to meet choi boy!!!) and since I arrived a little early, I went into Family Christian Bookstore to browse. I ended up stumbling across a copy of the newest edition of Baby Bargains*, which I purchased.
This is my third time owning the book. The first time John's sister gave me her old copy not long after we starting trying (because we were going to need it soon, ha!). The second time my mom gave me a copy for Christmas when I was pregnant. I gave that copy away to a friend (and former neighbor) who was pregnant. And so now we try again. I think there have been 3 or 4 editions of the book since that first copy John's sister gave me.
I have finished reading through it, skipping the sections that don't apply (breast pumps and items that are only needed for infants), and am now trying to compile a list of the things we need.
I know I want an Ergo baby carrier, pretty sure I would like a Britax car seat (not so sure about the price), and a Graco Pack 'n' Play to name a few items.
My sister gave me a Chico stroller, but I think I would also like a BOB or something like it for hikes/jogs.
She also gave me a booster. I think for now we will hold off on buying a high chair since at 16 or 17 months old, Joshua should be fine with a booster. Am I correct here? Part of what I am unsure of is how/if Joshua's prematurity will factor in. But since we already have the booster, I think we will try it and if it doesn't work, it will not be a big deal to go buy a high chair.
But what I am really unsure about is whether we should get a crib or a toddler bed. Google has been no help - I have read anywhere from 12 months to 3 or even 4 years old. Both of my sisters who are moms say toddler bed. I guess I am unsure if this is the right move though because of his prematurity and because Korean children tend to be smaller. Initially, I thought we would co-sleep, and we still may do that, but I have heard from a number of families who said their children took to their cribs right away and/or that co-sleeping just didn't work for them. In addition, my hubby is what I call a "grumpy sleeper," any little noise or disturbance bothers him, so I have realized that any co-sleeping arrangement would probably involve Joshua and I sleeping in his room. Also, I have no particular attachment to the idea of a crib in terms of setting up the nursery. I am at peace with the fact that we are not adopting an infant. As long as I get to decorate his room, I am happy.
A convertible crib would seem like the logical solution, but I am hesitant because they cost more and I really don't want the full-sized bed feature. I would prefer a twin bed or possibly bunk beds ( for Joshua's future brother, Lord willing, when we adopt again!).
Please weigh in. I would love to hear any thoughts or opinions.
*I would not recommend this book to anyone who is adopting unless you are feeling very secure in the fact that you are building your family through adoption. It is as if the authors of this book have no idea that there is any other way to build a family other than childbirth. Yes, I realize childbirth is the way for most people and therefore it makes sense that the book it targeted to the largest segment of the population. I wasn't upset by the book, but there was a time when the constant reminder of what I didn't and wasn't experiencing would have been very hurtful to me, which is why I mention it here.